Is your child:
It is one thing to be a bit of a neat freak or to be a tad too organized. It is another when having things out of order causes extreme distress. Your child may obsess about cleanliness or germs. She may wash her hands or use sanitizer repetitively. He or she may have repetitive rituals that do not seem to serve a purpose. Your child may be constantly ‘checking’ for germs or potential dangers. The child may insist on his or her toys being sorted in a perfect order. If the little sister comes in and moves things around, the child may have a meltdown.
The child may say “But I have to,” as he insists on cleaning or organizing something over and over again. He may be scared to go certain places or to eat certain things based on these worries and concerns.
She may have to complete a ritual or routine before just being able to leave the house. You may often be late to places because of your child’s need to be ready or prepared in order to alleviate anxiety.
Repetitive, non-functional routines or rituals used to relieve anxiety are referred to clinically as ‘compulsions.’
The underlying problem could be obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)  or an obsessive compulsive personality type.
OCD is characterized by obsessions over something, such as germs, and corresponding compulsions are used to relieve the anxiety. Extreme anxiety and perseverative, obsessive thinking are often the result if compulsions are not carried out.
For example, a child might feel extremely anxious if he is not allowed to wash his hands 5 times before leaving the house. This compulsive routine may be alleviating the obsessive worry that his hands are covered in germs.
It is important to differentiate this symptom from a child’s rigidity or need to have things a certain way for the comfort of routine. If your child’s rigidity is related more to a specific interest and does not necessarily serve the purpose of relieving anxiety, then you may be looking at an autism spectrum disorder.
If your child has compulsive behavior that is impacting day-to-day functioning, it is important that you seek professional help. Consider a combination of psychotherapy and medication to treat these symptoms.
At home, support your child with warmth and patience. Do not punish compulsive behaviors.
Work with a professional to expose your child very gradually to feared stimuli like germs. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a modality with considerable research to support its effectiveness.
CBT can be paired with exposure response prevention treatments that are slowly introduced in a gradual manner, giving anxiety time to dissipate within the situation. For example, a child with OCD may work to gradually touch something with germs and not wash hands.
The child is going to be slowly and gradually presented with the obsession but be unable to complete the compulsive ritual or thinking pattern.
Then, CBT can address understanding obsessions and anxiety, recognizing worry and fears, and developing healthy and appropriate coping strategies. OCD treatment is generally individual therapy, but parents or family members may be involved to the practice exposure with response prevention.
If your child is struggling with a similar problem, not directly addressed in this section, see the list below for links to information about other related symptom areas.
Children who have significant problems in this area may have any of the following potential disabilities. *Note, this information does not serve as a diagnosis in any way. See the ‘Where to Go for Help’ section for professionals who can diagnose or provide a referral.
If your child is struggling with this symptom to the point that it is getting in the way of his learning, relationships, or happiness, the following professionals could help; they may offer diagnosis, treatment, or both.
These professionals may recommend or administer the following tests for this symptom:
 Huebner, Dawn. (2007). What to do when your brain gets stuck: A kid’s guide to overcoming OCD. https://www.amazon.com/What-When-Brain-Stuck-What/dp/1591478057/
 Huebner, Dawn (2005). What to do when you worry too much: A kid’s guide to overcoming anxiety (What to do guides for kids).
 Zelinger, Laurie & Zelinger, Jordan (2014). Please explain anxiety to me. https://www.amazon.com/Explain-Anxiety-Biology-Solutions-Children/dp/1615992162/
 Cook, Julia (2012). Wilma jean and the worry machine. https://www.amazon.com/Wilma-Jean-Worry-Machine-Julia/dp/1937870014/
 Peters, Daniel B. (2013). From worrier to warrior: A guide to conquering your fears.
 Culbert, Timothy & Kajander, Rebecca (2007). Be the boss of your stress (Be the boss of your body®).
 Kroncke, Willard, & Huckabee (2016). Assessment of autism spectrum disorder: Critical issues in clinical forensic and school settings. Springer, San Francisco.
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